Cliff notes: get whats yours and get her in court for the rest.

Wow dave.. I'm so sorry to hear about all this. If her name isn't on it, then she can't keep you from it. Call the cops and get what you need. it works both ways... And like someone said; this is VA, so the state is geared towards bad fathers that don't do crap for their kids and heavily sided with the mothers. I made the mistake of getting a girl preg. when I was only 15. So from the age of 16-20, I was constantly in court for child support, custody and any other misc things that a baby mama will drag you in there for. I'm now almost 24 and have had full custody of my son for the past 4 years. Paitence and keeping your cool is the key. I don't want to put all my business out, but you have my number, so please give me a call and I will help you anyway I can. I'll PM it to you again just incase u don't have it anymore. Life is full of ups and downs, and your kids are prob. what will give you more ups. Don't let her stop you from seeing your kids and doing what is right. If she is not on the mortgage, then she has no right to let anyone move in or even kick you out. She is still your wife though, so the kids and her will be two seperate court matters. It's going to take a long time to get this worked out, so be sure that you have your shi7 together, because everything is setup in her favor already.

p.s. Don't kill her please, OJ used up all the minority favor in cases like that; and Concrin (however u spell his name) is dead.