Originally Posted by Cobra4B
To be blunt... you're a pussy. You get burnt by one girl, and are now friends with her? Now you get burnt a second time and try to figure out "what you did" and "why she ended it". Dude... she checked out a long time ago and is feeding you scoops of shit... whatever will let you down the easiest so as you don't go psycho on her.
I know it's freaking hard but you need to sack up and get over it. Get away from her and don't call her ever again. She'll come back to toy w/ you and se if you're still "shelfed" (term similar to having you on the back burner) DON'T let yourself be shelfed man.
I've been there... it hurts, and it's hard to accept that she doen't feel the same way. Don't waste time mourning her and feeling sorry for youself. People are made up of their actions and their decisions, not who their dating. You aren't less of a person, stupid, a moron, etc. b/c one cheating whore doesn't want to be with you.
It's so easy to spout this advise out when you're a step back from the situation... when I was going throug this w/ a few exes back my best friend jammed his watch in my face and said "tell me the fukcing time" I said, "I can't" He said, " I know... it's too close." Then he pulled his watch back and said, "Now tell me the time..." That action summed it all up. You've got you head up her ass and you love her so you can't "read the time" You missed all the signs that she's not in love with you b/c you only want to acknowledge the "good" and keep the illusion that she feels the same way. Take a step back and look it from an outsiders view.
Again... sack up and get away fron the bitch. Hang out w/ your buds and do cool/fun stuff. If you rebound wrap it up... don't want anal warts from some skanky slut!
Two different girls.
Kim the first, we broke up it was hard. We now are friends and chat every now and then. I havent been with her since we broke up.
Current girl, shes having more probs than I'd really like to talk about. I know shes gone. Still doesnt change that I love her very much. I set things strait yesterday and yes I am going to wallow in pain a while. I really cant help it. I am seeing other people right now. Hell the day after I lined up a date. Im just the kinda guy who doesnt like to stay at home and feel bad. I rather go out and move on.
On the same token, I'd talk with monica and be her friend. I cared about her too much to not give her that change. Doesnt mean Ill forget what she did. Sure as hell doesnt mean Ill make any decisions now when I'm hurting. Ill wait untill Ive long forgotten about this bs and I already have replaced her.